Duality of family is something, I woke up with this on my mind this morning. Think we all wake up with something on our mind to do, say or accomplish, but most just push it away as annoyance. What if we all paid attention to it, how different our lives would be…I digress…
The duality of family appears for all of us. It is when what is desired does not happen, and we begin to construct a perspective, not out of love, but from a motive of self-righteous motives; my way, not God’s way of right. We begin to alienate others because they do not tow the line of the family, not stopping to think maybe the family line is not the correct line of God. It is where our envy and jealousy are taken in daily dosages, like a required medical necessity pharmaceutical allowing us to sustain our life, and it is. The funny thing is, it is required to be taken, if we are to sustain our life ‘as is.’ But it does not allow for tangible rewards of fundamental progressive change outside of our own personal experiences, and love unconditional. The duality of the family is the wanting what is right for us, showing the right face to others, while tearing down the family core from the inside out; it implodes on itself. Too many times we achieve change, progress beyond our truth by accident, rather than intent, thus it cannot be replicated. See change is a daily intentional task, not an accidental occurrences, i.e. taking up our cross daily. The recognition of the fact, we are both godly and humanly, therefore, we must seek the balance from the Heavenly Father for instruction, and not our own divine understanding; it is tight but right. So, we can charter a future minus the co-pilots of jealousy and envy. Otherwise, we forget God gave us all freewill that allows for revitalization and renewal, so we can fall down, and He allows us to get up not holding our moments of weakness against us because of the imbedded unconditional love for us. However, the failure to acknowledge our duality put us in an imbalance, we begin replicate with no substance and only fluff. We become stagnate, diluted and over saturated in a viewpoint that does not allow the struggles of today pain to see the joy coming our way in both the literal and figurative morning of our life…James 3:14-17 - But if ye have bitter envy and strife in your hearts, glory not, and lie not against the truth. Such wisdom descendeth not from above, but is earthly, sensual, devilish.For where envy and strife are, there is confusion and every evil work. But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, easy to be entreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality and without hypocrisy. (21st KJV) See duality of the family never permits us to see v. 17. It becomes more of the judge and the jury, when it was never for us to be. We have the pendulum of being human take the weight, and the godliness gets push further and further back until what we think is god-like is a mistaken identity constructive to fit our pigeon-hole box, we assigned to God. Just like the duality of a person, accepting we are both allows the family to not get caught into the indicators of love that are not real because the balance is off. When we begin to tackle the difficult dialogues hidden in the fear and selfishness in our family, we are able to find, appreciate, and learn from it. Duality of the family only bestows balance when forgiveness shows us it is more than rhetoric, beyond disagreeable conflict, and struggles and hardship are part of being human. And like Christ, we all are to make sacrifices to make a better way for someone else, and not prey those taking the gift, rather pray they pay forward. Instilling in the one receiving a sense of appreciation, and the understanding there is a pay it forward, and pay it back...See with the duality of family is out of balance, no one wins and the family structural integrity crumbles…
